Navigating Impossible Conflict toward Resolutions! The Path of a Peacemaker!
Today’s guest is Dale Pyne, President and CEO of Peacemaker Ministries. Peacemakers was born out of the Christian Legal Society and exists to equip and assist Christians and their churches to respond to conflict biblically. They provide conflict coaching, mediation, and arbitration services to help resolve conflicts, disputes, and church division. Dale and his wife, Terry, have spent the majority of their time together building businesses as entrepreneurs and helping others do the same. They live in Monument, Colorado.
A fun fact about Dale is that his first part time job at a miniature golf course when he was only eleven years old paved the way for him to eventually own a few Harley Davidson dealerships.
Today, Dale will answer the following CEO Questions:
- What was your most important leadership lesson?
An either/or mentality is not a good position to start with. “When we have that black/white, yes/no perspective, we’re blinded by all the other opportunities that exist to resolve conflicts, or to make decisions on.”
- What keeps people from inviting that new perspective in their situation where they seem to be stalemated?
Blind spots, pride, or fear.
- What is a critical tool that has helped you be more productive as a leader?
“Teamwork…I think that we have to have our internal team to share the work load and to share in the benefits and the responsibilities. We also need an outside team, and for me I found a group of leaders who have common interests, and we meet spontaneously or intentionally on a schedule. We know each other very well. We know each other personally, and we know each other professionally. We share our challenges, and our hopes, and our fears, and our dreams. It is the most rejuvenating thing outside of worship that I do.”
- What encouragement would you give to the leader who may be on the edge of their biggest decision of their career?
“Seeking out insight, asking, ‘Is this pride or fear that’s driving me out, or keeping me in?’ and if so, ‘What am I going to do with that?’”
- What is the difference that you hope to make?
“For the majority of my life I would say the difference I wanted to make was to change, to make change, to improve organizations, to improve Harley Davidson dealerships. Along the way I recognized that the single most important thing in life is relationship. Relationships at different levels, for different reasons…The thing that I would like to have the most impact on is helping people understand that relationship is important, that it’s not either/or, that those that they would call their enemy are generally not.”
The contract clause mentioned in this episode can be downloaded here.